Wednesday, May 2, 2007

A Bar Mitzvah at Sea





A Bar Mitzvah at Sea

Day 1.

Day one came much too early. The limo came to pack us up at dawn. We, of course were not ready. I decided that I was not going to wait for the ship to start taking pills for sea-sickness. After all I’m not a great flyer.
We got to the airport with a bit of extra time. I knew Heidi and Jimmy were on the same flight. We waited and they were still not there. I always assume I’m wrong, so I started asking Ilene “ are you sure we are on the right flight?”
Well with a few min. to spare, here comes Jim out of breath with Heidi and seven 13 yrs. Old boys, three 14½ yrs old girls and Mallory.
The plane ride was uneventful. We watched part of Scooby-doo on the laptop (mistake to lug that thing, I’m sure I’ll do at again).
We took a taxi to the ship. We were not able to get into our rooms yet, so we had the first of many buffets. They hand you a plate that is the size of a platter. No one goes hungry on a cruse. I can eat a lot, but seeing people over eat reduces my appetite.

It was time to see our room. I had a very low expectation, and the “Stateroom” was a disappointment. It was small, dark and genuinely depressing. I t would have to be twice as large to be used in the STATEROOM scene from the Marx Brothers.










Ilene was upset, Lane thought it looked nice. Ilene want to talk to someone about Upgrading the room. I went to the pool. I was sitting there feeling a bit sorry for my self when a young girl went by in a wheel chair. She had no arms or no legs. That put things in perspective real quick. I’m sitting on a lounge chair on a cruse ship on a beautiful day. I’m with my wife and child, my parents, Heidi, Jimmy the kids, Jori and Bonny, All are well. If you can’t be happy on a day like that, you do not deserve to be happy. How many times in the future will I look back and say, “if I could only return to that day, that time in my life. How many people would give a year of their life to relive one day when there family were well and together. I learned two things.
1. You get what you pay for.
2. It’s your attitude that determines how much fun you have.
By the way Ilene did upgrade the room.

We went exploring around the ship while suitcases were being moved.
We went to dinner and found that the tables were not all together. The whole planning of this trip had been a disaster. Jerry called every day for 6 weeks to Cruses Only, and never got much help. Jim did not have much better luck.
Jerry went to talk to someone and got them to Do officially what we started to do our-selves, which was to make two tables work, one for the Kids, one for the adults. It was wonderful.

The amount of food was insane. We would order more than we could eat, and we eat more than we should.


Jim kept the wine flowing. Lane was in heaven because he had mallory and the “BIG BOYS” were paying attention to him.
Went to the show on the boat. The show had a comedian and Matt Baker our cruise director.
The “Boys” found some groupies. The “Girls” also found some friends of their own. Lane checked out the Kids center.

Day 2
Getting 21 people to move as a group is like trying to herd cats.
I walked with Jori and Heidi for a while, then just with Jori since Heidi wanted to go at her pace which was faster than Jori, and she ran with Jerry who was too fast for Judy who was upset that she could not go with Heidi. Jimmy was trying to keep 10 teenagers safe and out of trouble. There was a lot of time spent looking for one another. Jerry was franticly trying to “Do the right thing”.
Breakfast buffet was a lot of walking around with “Platters of food” in search of a table and people to sit with. I never eat breakfast But boy can I.
We all left the boat to go to KEY WEST.
We had a startling array of communication equipment. Never has so much technology accomplished so little. The cell phones rarely got answered, and the walkie-talkies were so garbled they sounded like we were on different planets. The girls went shopping, Jimmy took the boys, Judy Lane and Ilene went shopping, and Jerry and I rented bikes. Compared to the bike I just bought, this is almost a different machine entirely. But it was hot and it was fun to speed along. It was great to spend the time (away from work) with Jerry.
I loved the architecture. Victorian, but with the southern island look. This is where Ethan Allen furniture should go to shoot its Hemmingway inspired collection. Saw Hemmingway’s house, and the house that is the furthest most point south in the USA.
Found All of our party at one time or another.
WE switched and let Ilene and Judy ride the bikes back. After all it was HOT. I went with Ilene looking for stuff for her teeth, no luck.
More buffet, more pool, more drinks in commemorative glasses.
Dress for dinner. Jori has her 11th matching outfit. If I was a woman, I would be worse. Took pictures
I guess the “Groupies” were really getting obsessed with Teddy and his friends. The more Teddy pulled away, the more they wanted him. Boy that was a technique I never learned when I was a teenager ( I had not learned that in my 20s either).
Lane held his own in a few conversations with Teddy’s friends. They really were sweet to him. Lane and Mallory went to the kids center we went to the show. It was a dance show about rock in the movies. The performers were good. They were not Broadway good but they were suburban playhouse good. All in all it was worthwhile. We got Lane and Mallory, walked around and went back to our room.
Day 3
A little more early morning confusion, a lot of phone calls, a little searching for this one or that one. More platters of food.
Ilene Lane and myself were on our own. We had made plans to see the Mayan ruins

El Castillo
The most outstanding building of Tulum is the Castle, El Castillo, perched on Tulum's highest cliff. This temple-topped pyramid also served as a watchtower and a lighthouse. Like many important structures in the Mayan world, the current building is the result of different stages of additional construction. It began as a palace-like base, the staircase added at a later date and eventually it was crowned by the temple on top. The doorway to the temple has columns in the shape of rattlesnakes, with the tails supporting the roof and their heads adjoining the floor. Due to the rapidly increasing number of tourists to Tulum, El Castillo is now roped-off, and not possible to climb. However, on the other side of the little beach, there's another building on a smaller cliff, which you are allowed to climb. From there you will have a fantastic view over El Castillo and the site in general.
Facts
Tulum is located about 50 minutes south of Playa del Carmen. The ruins are north of the town. The highway bends away from the coast here, so the town is actually a few minutes drive from the sea. Tulum's Zona Hotelera, or hotel zone, is reached by turning left at the traffic light before town. Heading to the right are many cenotes, and eventually the ruins of Cobá. The hotel zone leans towards the beach cabaña style, offering everything from simple accommodation options to newer, more costly 'designer' style palapas. The town of Tulum has several restaurants and convenience stores for supplies.
We took a ferry to a bus in order to get there, but it was well worth while. Finally the reason I lugged the Bronica paid off. I can work for many days on the photos. All around the world there is junk. Tee-shirt shops, Junk jewelry, Franchised restaurants, the Gap, etc. but there are still some places worth traveling to- this was one of them.
Like Stonehenge, this place really has an “Other world” feel.
After the tour, we went back to Carmen d playa. I am sorry that we could not spend time there. When we got to Cancun I was even more sorry we could not spend more time in Carmen d Playa. Cancun was a dump, one junk store after another. I know that there was some silver worth buying, but it was an unattractive, poor town filled with people trying to drag you into their store. Ilene got some earrings which were very pretty I’m not sure if they were a bargain. Went back to the ship. Had a late buffet.
Jim had gone with Jerry and the kids to this beach park Jerry found. Jim got Scuba equipment for the boys. Jerry watched the girls a bit, and went snorkeling. It sounded like the boys had fun.
The woman were shopping. They all came back with silver.
I hung out at the pool, Lifted weights with Jim for a few min.
Jim did the Belly Flop contest- he did not win. Had some drinks by the pool, more commemorative glasses.
Got ready for dinner.
Again the wine was flowing. Heidi was getting a little upset with the groupie thing. “ Don’t these girls have parents.” I guess they won the trip, and then one of them won BINGO. I think they made a profit. We spent a little time in the Casino. I was with Jim when he was at the craps table. He was tossing, and yelling, winning and loosing. It was as if he was speaking another world. I asked him how he knew what he was doing. He said “ When you were young and Jerry was taking you out to museums, my father was teaching me to play craps,” We had a table in the basement”.
Lane and Mallory went to kids center. We went to the show first. We saw a Juggler, and a ventriloquist. Very good.
Day 4
This was an at sea day. We woke up, put the towels out to reserve chairs. More confusion, with trying to get groups of people together for Breakfast, work out morning walks. Teddy and his group and Kimmie and her group were on there own cruse. Lane and Malory get along real well and I think they both had fun. At some point the fact that one is a boy and one is a girl will be a factor in them not being so close; but for now its fantastic.
This was a day of hanging out on the boat. Jerry bought bingo tickets for everyone. Ilene was close but no cigar. Lane did actually get up and sing Painted Black for the kids talent show. I am always surprised that he has the guts to do that. I certainly do not push him. I would be terrified. It was really cool that the big kids came to see him. He expected the adults to be there, but teenagers’ making a special trip to see him was a big deal.



There was a lot of “cruse events”. Sexy legs contest, Fake horse races that sort of thing. Can someone please explain to me why Black Sabbath’s Iron Man and Bach’s toccata and fugue in G minor sound the same when played on a steel drum? Every song sounds the same when played by one of those imitation “Island bands”. We logged in dozens of hours of that sound alike music. It is decoration like the little umbrellas in the drinks. The music gives you permission to over drink.

Dinner was not with-out conflict.
Our table of “kids” were situated right next to a table of “Adults” that seemed not to take delight in the laughter of children. This was a cruse that was in large part populated by families. The kids were not quite, but were overwhelmedly well behaved. They also were very brief in the duration spent dinning. How different people deal with conflict tells a lot about who they are. My immediate reaction was to say “Sorry” and send over a bottle of wine (even though I think they were wrong). Jim sort of ignored them while taking some delight in the other table’s unjustified displeasure. Judy went up to make nice with a tinge of sarcasm in her sweetness, when the woman screamed at her for touching her, Heidi wanted to rip the lady’s throat out. In many ways I thing Heidi’s response is healthier than mine.


Last day
WE got up, could not find anyone. Paid the bill which was much higher than I expected, but was accurate. We left the boat, and maid the assumption that since we could not find anyone or their luggage that they must have already gone- I was wrong.
We were in the cab when we got the call from Jimmy, so we changed direction and went to the beach. I figured we could get a hotel to hold our stuff while we went to the beach. I remembered the Yankee Clipper and we showed up there.
Gave the guy a hefty tip to hold our stuff. He was quite pleased, He was even happier when Jim showed up with more luggage and an other tip. In fact he was pleased enough to offer us the run of the pool and beach- an offer we took him up on. Jim bought lunch for twenty people :so I do not feel bad for the hotel. In fact the manager looking at that days books probably was surprised to see such large sales at
the pool bar for a day with few registered guests.
Ellio joined us at the pool and the beach. It really turned out to be a nice day.
It was the perfect thing to do for the few hours we had to spend.

Our cab driver ( I say “Our cab driver”) because he was the one that took us to the hotel, and made advanced arrangements to pick us back up again. We got to the airport. Went to the terminal and waited and waited. I saw Jessie Jackson there. He was also waiting.
We said hello. Ilene asked him what he was doing to get rid of Bush” He said “I TRYING”. Everyone else got to the airport for their flight one hour later than ours but due to weather. ( Our beautiful day turned dark and rainy real quick. We were stuck on the plain for over an hour and a half. That was bad, it would have been much better to be in the terminal.

Well another vacation is complete. All in all I glad I went.

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Judy & Jerry Lubell's first Apartment




Our First Apartment


Our first apartment 6250 N Winthrop Ave. in Chicago.

We could not wait to move into our first home as Husband and wife but until our “Deluxe apartment” was ready - we rented a studio apartment.

This Studio was in an apartment hotel , upstairs of Ashcanaz deli. At the time Ashacanaz was a very popular restaurant, in fact it was a sort of Icon in the world of Jewish delis. It was located on Morse avenue in Rogers Park. Morse was a very crowded street; so each night we had to search for a place to park often several streets away, then walk back to the building.
The main thing we remember of our short stay there, was that we could smell the food. We are not talking about an up-scale 5 star gourmet restaurant with the subtle aromas of Sage and Basel. No this was “Real food”, “Old-World food.

We would guess from the smell what was being served--although sometimes it was easy to tell, because we could hear the orders being called to the kitchen- “I need 3 Cabbage soups, one Matzo ball, one order of Fried kippers two tongue sandwiches and a pastrami on Rye" We would be sitting in our studio and all night we would hear people ordering and smell salami omelets, corned beef on rye, cheese blintzes and Chopped Liver.
Its 50 years later, but we still remember those two weeks at the New Morse Hotel

Tuesday, January 9, 2007

Learning how to drive

"The Hard Way"




I was 12 when I first started to learn to drive. I was too young, and so I could not ask my dad to teach me so I had no choice but to ask Marvin. While it was nice of him to agree to teach me, it also sort of put me at his mercy.

You see because I was not supposed to be driving, how could I complain about any thing that happened.


Of course, a 1946 Plymouth is a stick shift . So learning how to drive also meant learning how to drive a stick shift . I remember the first time behind the wheel. Every time the car jumped, changing gears, Marvin would sock me. That was some way to learn to let out the clutch easier. I would drive down the street and people would say,” Isn’t that Judy driving?” I would come home black and blue, but I could not tell anyone why. That was the part I hated.

Every night I would go for a ride with the family, stop and get Ice-cream at a drive-in. I would fall asleep in the car when we would get home my mother would wake me up to walk home from the garage which was in my dad’s building by the store.

Thursday, July 6, 2006

Jesus Christ and Parenthood

Last Night We Saw Jesus Christ Superstar.
The show was good, It is difficult with a “Rock “ anything, because you are use to certain voices. Bob Dylan does not have a trained voice but it is recognizable. I could not tell the difference between Pavarotti and his understudy. It’s like I can’t tell the difference between a $30.00 bottle of wine and a $300.00 bottle, but I can taste the difference between Coke and Pepsi. These people were good but the people ion the original record were “Great”. Lane on his own came to that same conclusion; But he loved it.

Changing dippers did not make me feel like a parent; but Lane leaving his retainer thing last night at Arbys last night did. There is a chance that they might have it, they were closed when we realized. Lane started crying uncontrollably, “I am a terrible person, I let the whole family down” It’s all my fault I should be punished for a month.”

Of course I am the rational adult chiming in with comments like “That’s it that is the end of braces or “That’s it, now we will have to cancel our trip to Florida.”
“It’s all my fault, Lane has my genes” I did a poor job rearing him”

Meanwhile Ilene is upset and saying “It’s my fault” I should have kept an eye on it” “I’m just over whelmed.”
Lane is crying “Blame me not your selves.”

The irony is we just came from Jesus Christ Superstar, and the three of us are all playing the part of Martyr.

You would have been rolling on the floor in laughter

I must admit It would be much funnier if we find the thing.

Saturday, May 20, 2006

Judy The Beauty




Some things stick!
My sister, Sylvia, Had a wedding shower. We, of course
I brought a gift, and as a joke I signed the card
“Judy the Beauty”..
There were a whole group of girls that hung out at our local drug store
The next time I was there with a few of my friends they started calling me " Judy the Beauty” After that My friends started calling me by that nickname.
I don’t know if nicknames are as popular now, but then it seemed like a lot of people had them..My brother Marvin was called Bullet; as a result I as
sometimes called “Little Bullet”. Even my father had a nickname his was
Torpedo.


Tuesday, May 9, 2006

My trip to school



After I got dressed in the morning, I would walk over to my Dad’s store (which was a
block away) Some days my mom would be asleep, tired from the long day on her
feet the day before. Other days both my mom and dad would already have been in
the store working. My mother would be making the egg salad, pickling herring,
or whatever food was appropriate for the time of year, or up-coming Jewish
holiday. My dad would be working behind
the counter or doing stock, but would stop to make me breakfast. Like any food
store, there were always suppliers making deliveries. Who ever was delivering merchandise to the store, my Dad would
ask them to drive his “Judala” to school.
Sometimes I went with the Coca -Cola truck, sometimes with the milk
truck etc.


Today,
living across from the Latin School, I see kids getting dropped off coming out
of BMWs, Porsches, and sometimes limos.
I stepped off the milk wagon and I
thought it was great.

Monday, April 3, 2006

First Cousins Second Cousins

Sol Senter Saralyn Zucker, Ronald Senter
Harold Senter Marlene Zaslove, Jerry Senter
Sidney Senter Jackie Walker, Sheri Senter
Helen Kalan Harvey Kalan, Steven Kalan, Susan Press
Louis Senter Marsha Scully
Bobby Senter L. Dawn Lopez

Bob Ross Michael Ross, Margot Kruse, Kim Kading, Vicki Ross, Donna Ross
Shirley Goldberg Irene Ezring, Maxine Cohen, Marlene Goldberg
Louise Pierce Laura Baren, Mitchell Pierce, Janet Ritter, Brad Pierce
Eileen Cohen Joe Cohen, Deborah Cohen, Robin Kwiek, Rebecca Cohen

Sarah Adelman Steven Adelman, Bev Karns
Helen Hoffman Marsha Steinberg, Arlene Mayzel
Raymond Leavitt
Irving Greenberg Louis Greenberg
Florence Slade Lynn Comen, Laurie Slade
Bernie Greenberg Barbara Joyce, Susan Demerer, Joni Bagby
George Greenberg Larry Greenberg, Mike Greenberg, Wendy DuFour

Harry Leavitt Renee Leavitt, Jay Leavitt
Robert Leavitt Ronald Leavitt, Jeff Leavitt, Debra Gilmore
Cal Leavitt Arnold Leavitt, Dana Scapa
Allan Leavitt Lee Leavitt

Sylvia Wax Alan Wax, Michael Wax
Nettie Naftal Diana Naftal
Norman Leavitt Stephen Leavitt, Seth Leavitt

Sylvia Wilk Andrew Wilk, Sheri Barenblat, Sheila Cooper
Marvin Leavitt Jori Garces, Cole Leavitt
Judy Lubell Larry Lubell, Heidi Kirsch
Terry Leavitt Matthew Leavitt

Abram Joffe Lev Joffe
Chaim Joffe Igor Joffe
Frieda Lipovich Sofia Lipovich, Danny Lipovich